She Loved Me AND She Cut Me Out of the Photo

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Somebody handed us a lie: that you have to pick. Grieve or be grateful. Stay or go. Love your life or ache for more. This episode is your permission to stop choosing — and to live in the Both/And.

We start light (you can be gloriously bad at something and love every second) and move into the hardest Both/And I ever learned: my grandmother, who made me hamburgers "just like McDonald's" and wrote me letters I still cherish — and who played favorites, and once framed a family photo with me literally cut in half. You'll hear how two words — what if both things are true? — thawed a block of ice I'd carried for decades, why "no villain required" changes everything, and how to run your own Both/And Audit this week.

Inside: the four Joy Nuggets, the Scrapper, black-and-white thinking as a hiding strategy, the Inner Storyteller and the Threshold Guardian, and Both/And as honest faith.

I'm Rachel Harris, The JOY Coach — an identity & reinvention coach for women in the thick of a life transition, and a New York Times & USA Today bestselling author.

→ The essay, "The Half That Stayed" (The Salon): https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/p/the-half-that-stayed
Both things can be true. Create a life you love. Live a legacy of joy.

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