Letting Go of Perfectionism After 40: The Pottery Class That Broke Mine
Show notes
What if the thing standing between you and the life you want isn’t fear — it’s the belief that you have to be good before you get to be seen?
Most of us don’t avoid visibility because we’re lazy. We avoid it because somewhere along the way, being seen without excellence started to feel unsafe. So we wait. Until we know more, lose the weight, heal enough, have the degree. Until we can do it right.
But here’s the truth that changes everything: you don’t get confident and then become visible. You build confidence by surviving visibility.
In this episode, Rachel shares the story of a pottery class that quietly dismantled forty years of performance-based living — and what happened when she stopped waiting to be good and started showing up in the learning instead. We talk about pinkie-toe steps, nervous system panic, and what it actually looks like to practice imperfection in real life.
Because joy isn’t reserved for people who are already good at something.
And neither is being seen.
In this episode:
• Why waiting to be ready is just Good Girl Ghosting with better excuses
• The pottery class that changed how Rachel thinks about visibility
• How pinkie-toe steps compound into confidence
• The difference between performing courage and practicing it
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