Identifying your core values at midlife is one of the first steps toward creating a life that is YOURS -- not someone else's. Stop chasing goals that don't fit your life!

For many of us, it's easy to rattle off your kids’ values, your partner’s values, your besties values — and then go completely blank on your own. I share the day I created my own real core values list and cried — not because I'd checked off another task, but because I feel SEEN. By myself.

In this episode, I walk you step-by-step through the exact practice I used to get there. Showing you around the pitfalls many people are victim to — confusing what they believe with what they want others to see. The ones that lead to burnout. Remove fear from the decision making process, distinguish between core and aspirational, and finally gain clarity on what matters most to you.

Feeling stuck or misaligned in your current life path?
In an empty-nest, midlife reinvention, or life transition season and want to stop feeling like a stranger in your own skin?
Ditch the vision board, and reclaim your unique spark!

Discover how two people can write the exact same word and still hold completely different values (your fingerprint lives in the story behind the word, not the word).

In this episode:

• Why most of us think we know our values — and don’t — and what that gap quietly costs us
• The difference between a value you inherited and a value that’s actually yours
• How living by values you never chose has a name: Good Girl Ghosting™
• My author’s secret I used on my own values (spoiler alert: the blinking cursor that’s never perfectionism — it’s listening)
• The two-step practice that results in goosebumps

A few lines worth remembering:

• “You can’t live what you haven’t named.”
• “Two people can share a value. Only you carry your version of it.”
• “Your values aren’t rules. They’re a description of who you already are when fear isn’t making the decisions.”
• “Do I respect myself here, or do I betray myself here?”

Video Chapters:
0:00 — Why core values matter
0:26 — What your real values are
1:46 — The cost of inherited values
3:06 — Role models reveal your own values
4:22 — Values are not a vision board list
5:22 — “Good girl ghosting” and self-betrayal
6:20 — Rachel’s personal values list
7:19 — Listening until the words feel true
10:04 — Feeling seen by yourself
11:28 — Your version of a value is the point
12:26 — Core values for your work too
14:04 — The values exercise
15:25 — Sentence stems for writing your values
16:42 — Values are who you are without fear
17:12 — Returning to your values when life gets loud
18:10 — Reset invitation and resources

Next steps:
• Naming your values alone is powerful. Naming them in a room full of women deciding the same brave thing is a whole different kind of alive — that’s the Good Girl Ghosting Reset, and I’m opening it to a small founding group of Founding Sisters.
Find me on Instagram @RachelHarrisOnline and DM me the word RESET for the details, or head to my website here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/ggg-reset

• Want an easy on-ramp? DM me MY STORY for my Free Guide: 5 Moments You’re Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It). Or click the link here: https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08

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What is one value you know for sure is yours?